Why are some people always successful at whatever they do while others live out their lives in failure? How can some people love their work and others abhor it? Again, how do some manage to live out their dreams when the rest spend their lives only dreaming?
We may morosely put it down to luck, but actually it is all a matter of attitude.
Be positive and the world will be in the palm of your hand! Being negative seems normal. All around us people are constantly cursing the world and its sister. Self-pitying edicts like ‘Poor old me’, ‘I hate my job’, ‘this always happens to me’ abound.
However, such pessimism is not healthy. In effect, negativity is a big turn-off.
It thwarts all opportunities and is not conducive to creative or productive work.
In contrast, ‘think positive’ is as cliched as it can get. Yet, it stands true that an ability to see the bright side of things helps you to cope more easily with any vagaries or adversities that life and work may throw your way.
Ability and talent also blossom in a positive environment. You are more likely to do well if you perceive the world as a friendly place with new opportunities waiting at every turn.
After all, Negative attitude says: You cannot achieve success. Positive attitude says: You can achieve success.
No doubt, there will always be days when you feel that nothing is going right.
However, this is not the end of the world. And, anticipating difficulties or failure will not help matters either. You have to stay optimistic and expect the best to happen.
Only changing the way you think will help you move up the career ladder and make your dreams come true.
Like a salesman who takes the approach of ‘just one more door’, no matter how many doors slam in his face. Well, that is a positive attitude!
Living life with a positive twist
Work at being positive by harnessing your personal power and taking charge of your subconscious mind. Here are a few tips:
• Nip negative thoughts, behaviour, worries and jealousy in the bud. They are futile. Instead, be an optimist and feel good about what you do.
• ‘As you think so you are!’ Think in terms of ‘can do’ and ‘want to do’ rather than ‘cannot do’ and ‘have to do’.
• Display self-esteem and confidence by believing in yourself and your abilities.
• Always expect favourable things and visualise only what you want to happen. Make it vivid and focussed. Work on it and watch it become real.
• Face every challenge head on. Do not let petty upheavals get you down. Chin up and life can never get the better of you.
• Things go wrong all the time. You may fail to complete an important assignment, miss out on a project or even lose you job. But you can either be devastated or see it as a challenge that opens up new opportunities. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and put it down to experience.
• There are two sides to every coin. Look for the silver lining and things will not seem as bad as you think they are.
• Do not give up in the face of failure. See the problem as a blessing in disguise and focus your energies on seeking solutions. You have to learn to pick up the pieces and start afresh. After all, a winner is not one who never fails, but one who never quits.
• List out the things that you are grateful for in life. Focus on them when you feel you have been short-changed. Or, seek other distractions from your problems like meeting a friend or indulging a hobby. Time will give you a better perspective.
• Deal yourself the life’s best cards and turn your stumbling blocks into stepping-stones with positivity in the heart.
• Finally, concentrate on the future; do not dwell on the past. Life is too short to brood over what went wrong. Discard your ‘what ifs’ and ‘might have beens’.
An inspiring sign at an office entrance reads, ‘Negativity is what you leave outside the door’. Adopt positivity as a way of life, but exercise thoughtful judgement too.
Do not live in a fool’s paradise by viewing the world through rose-tinted glasses.
Finally, as Shakespeare once said, “There is nothing either good or bad; but thinking makes it so”.
So, decide your attitude right now.
